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Pesanan Buat Sang Suami

1. Selalu menghargai usaha dan penat-lelah isteri, terutama isteri yang bekerja dan sama-sama terpaksa menanggung hutang suami.
2. Bila isteri bercakap, pandanglah mukanya dan buka telinga luas-luas. Biar apa yang dikatakannya masuk telinga kanan dan tersumbat di telinga kiri. Sambil tu otak suami kenalah memproses informasi yang diterima daripada isteri dengan bijak serta prihatin.
3. Jangan sekali-kali membandingkan masakan isteri atau cara isteri menghias rumah dengan mak anda kecuali masakan/cara menghias isteri anda lebih baik dan canggih dari emak anda.
4. Jangan minta hubungan intim sekiranya isteri tak ada mood atau letih. Agama suruh kahwin bukan semata-mata untuk penuhi nafsu syahwat saja.
5. Kalau pasangan dah ada anak, sama-samalah menjaga anak. Benih dari awak juga.. Ada suami, isteri sedang makan disuruh cebok kencing n berak anak sedangkan suami duduk tersandar kekenyangan macam maharaja.
6. Jangan sekali-kali duduk tersandar depan TV atau relax-relax sedangkan isteri bila balik dari kerja, buka saja kasut terus masuk dapur, memasak, mengemas, membasuh, kejar anak dsbnya. Berbulu mata dan sayu hati isteri bila kami tak cukup tangan nak menguruskan rumahtangga sedangkan suami lepas tangan.
7. Sekiranya suami makan dahulu, tinggalkan sedikit lauk utk isteri. Jangan bedal semua sampai turn isteri yang tinggal cuma ekor ikan sekerat, janggut sotong dan ekor taugeh.
8. Kalau nak ajak member bertandang ke rumah, beritau isteri dulu, kalau boleh sehari-dua in advance. Jadi bolehlah dia memasak yang best-best dan mengemas rumah cantik-cantik. Bayangkan perasaan isteri kalau tetamu datang terpacak sedangkan kain-baju masih berlonggok belum sempat dilipat, permainan anak masih berselerak dan isteri cuma masak mi maggi saja.
9. Jangan sekali-kali menyakat isteri tentang saiz badannya yang semakin sihat atau semakin melidi. Tengok body sendiri dalam cermin dulu.
10. Jangan kentut depan isteri. Masa bercinta dulu kenapa boleh control kentut?
11. Hormatilah ibu-bapa dan kaum keluarga isteri walaupun anda cuma main wayang, bodek mereka masa nak mengurat isteri anda dulu. Jangan sekali mencaci mereka walaupun secara bergurau.
12. Jangan kedekut dengan isteri serta keperluan rumahtangga.
13. Jagalah maruah anda sebagai suami dan lelaki. Selagi boleh, jangan bebankan isteri dengan masalah kewangan anda. Selalunya perempuan ni, semakin suami “degil” tak nak minta pertolongan, selagi itulah dia rela nak tolong.
14. Jangan bersepah dan bersikap pengotor. Dah buka baju, letakkan dalam bakul baju kotor, dah guna cungkil gigi, buanglah dalam bakul sampah, bila dah guna ubat gigi bubuh balik penutupnya, dah ambil sesuatu barang simpan balik ditempat asal, dah berak flush. Susah sangat ke nak buat macam tu? Semua nak kena ajar ke?
15. Rajin-rajinlah bertanya isteri kalau dia perlukan bantuan anda dengan kerja rumah/menjaga anak. Tapi jangan tanya dua tahun sekali. Jangan tunjuk rajin bila ada tetamu di rumah saja.
16. Hormatilah isteri anda sebagaimana anda mahu dihormati. Isteri pun manusia. Allah berikan banyak keistimewaan kepada para isteri tapi diputar-belitkan tafsirannya oleh orang lelaki untuk kepentingan diri sendiri.
17. Jangan main kayu tiga dengan perempuan lain. Main lain lagi tak boleh. Kalau isteri awak yang buat, tentu awak tak boleh tolerate, jadi mengapa isteri awak kena tolerate kalau awak buat?
18. Kalau tak menyukai sikap atau perbuatan isteri, tegurlah secara baik, jangan asyik nak menengking aja. Kalau awak sakit nak mati nanti, siapa yang kena jaga awak? Bai jual roti? Apek jual sayur? Jiran sebelah rumah awak?
19. Kalau isteri nampak tak sihat, cepat-cepatlah bawa jumpa doktor. Tunjuklah anda mengambil berat tentang dirinya.
20. Berbincanglah dengan isteri sebelum sesuatu keputusan dibuat. Walaupun suami megah ada kuasa veto, tak jadi bapok kalau pendapat isteri diambil kira. Pokok pangkalnya ialah timbangrasa dan saling menghargai. Cubalah ketepikan ego yang keterlaluan. Bukannya laku bila dah mati nanti.
21. Dalami agama dan bimbinglah anak isteri dengan ikhlas seperti yang dituntut agama. Ingat, kalau seorang suami masuk syurga, besar kemungkinan isteri pun masuk syurga. Kalau suami masuk neraka belum tentu isteri juga masuk neraka. Kalau isteri masuk neraka, besar kemungkinan suami juga masuk NERAKA tapi kalau isteri masuk syurga belum tentu suami pun masuk syurga.Ini bukan rekaan saya tapi saya dengar dari seorang ustaz.
22. Berusahalah dengan ikhlas untuk mempertahankan keharmonian rumahtangga. Jangan buat apa yang isteri tak suka. Percayalah, kalau suami buat baik sekali dengan isteri, isteri balas sepuluh kali
23. Jangan buat donno kalau isteri merajuk atau berkecil hati. Kalau perlu minta maaf, minta maaf, kalau perlu dipujuk, pujuk. Hati orang pompuan ni sensitif. Kalau kami rasa suami tak ambil kisah, perasaan bagai dihiris-hiris. Perkara yang dipandang remeh oleh suami boleh menjadi kanser kepada isteri. Kepada para suami khususnya dan kaum lelaki amnya, janganlah dianggap masalah hati dan perasaan orang perempuan ni enteng sahaja.

Panduan Singkat Berpuasa Ramadhan

Berikut ini adalah petunjuk singkat mengenai puasa yang meliputi : Segi hukumnya, golongan manusia dalam soal puasa, hal-hal yang membatalkan puasa dan beberapa keutamaannya.

• Puasa adalah ibadah yang dilaksanakan dengan jalan meninggalkan segala yang menyebabkan batalnya puasa sejak terbit fajar hingga terbenam matahari.
• Puasa Ramadhan merupakan salah satu rukun Islam yang agung, sebagaimana sabda Nabi sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam,"Islam itu didirikan di atas lima perkara; Bersaksi tiada sesembahan yang hak melainkan Allah dan bersaksi bahwa Muhammad itu utusan Allah, mendirikan shalat, mengeluarkan zakat, puasa Ramadhan dan berhaji ke Baitullah." (Muttafaq 'alaih)
  

Golongan Manusia dalam Berpuasa.

1. Puasa diwajibkan kepada setiap muslim, baligh, mampu dan bukan dalam keadaan musafir (bepergian).
2. Orang kafir tidak diwajibkan berpuasa dan jika ia masuk Islam tidak diwajibkan mengqadha’ (mengganti) puasa yang ditinggalkannya selama ia belum masuk Islam.
3. Anak kecil di bawah usia baligh tidak diwajibkan berpuasa, tetapi dianjurkan untuk dibiasakan berpuasa.
4. Orang gila tidak wajib berpuasa dan tidak dituntut untuk mengganti puasa dengan memberi makan, walau pun sudah baligh. Begitu pula orang yang kurang akalnya dan orang pikun.
5. Orang yang sudah tidak mampu untuk berpuasa disebabkan penyakit, usia lanjut, sebagai pengganti puasa ia harus memberi makan setiap hari satu orang miskin (membayar fidyah).
6. Bagi seseorang yang sakit dan penyakitnya masih ada kemungkinan untuk dapat disembuhkan, jika ia merasa berat untuk menjalankan puasa, maka dibolehkan baginya tidak berpuasa, tetapi harus mengqadha'nya setelah sembuh.
7. Wanita yang sedang hamil atau sedang menyusui jika dengan puasa ia merasa khawatir terhadap kesehatan dirinya dan anaknya, maka dibolehkan tidak berpuasa dan kemudian mengqadha'nya di hari yang lain.
8. Wanita yang sedang dalam keadaan haidh atau dalam keadaan nifas, tidak boleh berpuasa dan harus mengqadha'nya pada hari yang lain.
9. Orang yang terpaksa berbuka puasa karena hendak menyelamatkan orang yang hampir tenggelam atau terbakar, maka ia mengqadha' puasa yang ditinggalkan itu pada hari yang lain.
10. Bagi musafir boleh memilih antara berpuasa dan tidak berpuasa. Jika memilih tidak berpuasa, maka ia harus mengqadha'nya di hari yang lain. Hal ini berlaku bagi musafir sementara, seperti keluar untuk melaksanakan umrah, atau musafir tetap, seperti pemandu trak & bas (luar daerah), maka bagi mereka boleh tidak berpuasa selama mereka tinggal di daerah (negeri) orang lain dan harus mengqadha'nya.
    

Beberapa Rukhsah yang Tidak Membatalkan Puasa.

• Jika seseorang melakukan sesuatu perbuatan yang membatalkan puasa disebabkan lupa atau tidak mengerti atau pun tidak sengaja, maka puasanya tidak batal. Berdasarkan ayat,

1. "Ya Tuhan kami, janganlah Engkau hukum kami jika kami lupa atau kami bersalah." (QS. al-Baqarah : 286)
2. "Dan tiada dosa atasmu terhadap apa yang kamu khilaf padanya, tetapi (yang ada dosanya) adalah yang disengaja di hatimu." (QS. al-Ahzab : 5)
   

• Jika orang yang sedang berpuasa makan dan mimun karena ia yakin bahwa matahari telah terbenam, maka puasanya tidak batal; dan tidak batal pula puasa orang yang makan dan minum karena yakin bahwa fajar belum terbit (padahal yang sebenarnya waktu sahur telah habis).
• Jika orang yang sedang berpuasa berkumur, lalu masuk sebahagian air ke dalam tenggorokannya tanpa sengaja, maka puasanya tidak batal. Dan tidak batal puasa seseorang yang ketika tidur bermimpi (hingga keluar mani), karena tidak ada nash yang menyatakan hal tersebut batal.
  

Hal-hal yang membatalkan puasa ada lapan :

1. Melakukan jima' (hubungan intim suami istri) pada siang hari Ramadhan bagi yang sedang berpuasa, maka wajib mengqadha' puasanya dan membayar kafarah mughallazhah (denda berat) yaitu dengan memerdekakan seorang hamba sahaya. Jika tidak mendapatkan hamba sahaya maka wajib baginya berpuasa selama dua bulan berturut-turut. Dan jika tidak mampu, maka ia berkewajiban memberi makan enam puluh orang miskin.
2. Mengeluarkan air mani dengan cara onani atau masturbasi, mencium, memeluk, merangkul dan lain-lainnya.
3. Makan minum atau menghisap sesuatu, baik yang bermanfaat atau yang berbahaya seperti rokok.
4. Menyuntikkan obat yang dapat mengenyangkan dan dapat menahan rasa lapar, karena melakukan itu berarti sama dengan minum. Sedang menyuntikkan obat yang tidak mengenyangkan, maka hal tesebut tidak membatalkan puasa, walaupun disuntikkan pada otot atau urat nadi, baik terasa di kerongkongan atau tidak.
5. Keluar darah haidh dan nifas
6. Mengeluarkan darah dengan jalan hijamah (membekam) atau yang serupa. Sedang keluar darah dengan sendirinya atau karena mencabut gigi dan yang semisalnya, tidak membatalkan puasa, karena hal tersebut tidak termasuk dalam pengertian hijamah.
7. Muntah disengaja, tetapi jika muntah tanpa disengaja atau dibuat-buat, maka tidak batal puasanya.
8. Transfusi darah sebagai pengganti darah yang keluar, seperti seseorang yang sedang berpuasa terluka (kecelakaan dan sejenisnya) yang mengakibatkan keluarnya darah.
   

Beberapa Petunjuk Berkenaan dengan Masalah Puasa

• Seorang yang dalam keadaan junub tetap harus berniat puasa, meskipun ia mandi janabah setelah terbit fajar (Subuh).
• Wanita yang suci dari haidh sebelum fajar tiba (bulan Ramadhan), maka wajib berpuasa walaupun ia mandi besar setelah terbit fajar.
• Seseorang yang sedang berpuasa dibolehkan mencabut gigi, mengobati luka atau menggunakan obat tetes mata/telinga.
• Diperbolehkan bagi yang sedang berpuasa untuk bersiwak, baik diwaktu pagi maupun siang hari, bahkan itu termasuk sunnah Nabi sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam.
• Untuk mengurangi rasa panas dan dahaga dibolehkan menggunakan AC atau air dingin untuk membasahi kepala.
• Bagi penderita sesak nafas meskipun sedang berpuasa diperbolehkan menyembur mulut dengan sesuatu (berupa udara/gas) yang dapat melonggarkan pernafasan.
• Orang yang sedang berpuasa diperbolehkan membasahi bibir dengan air bila terasa kering dan juga diperbolehkan berkumur-kumur namun dengan syarat tidak tertelan.
• Disunnahkan mengakhirkan sahur, hingga menjelang Fajar dan segera berbuka setelah matahari terbenam (Maghrib).Diutamakan berbuka dengan kurma rutab (kurma yang masak), jika tidak ada rutab dengan kurma yang lain, dan jika tidak ada kurma boleh berbuka denga apa saja yang halal atau berbuka dengan minum air apabila tidak menjumpai makanan.
• Orang yang sedang berpuasa sangat dianjurkan untuk memperbanyak amalan sunnah, seperti solat sunnah, membaca al- Qur'an, berzikir dan bersedekah.
• Bagi yang sedang berpuasa tetap diharuskan menjaga dan mengamalkan kewajiban-kewajiban yang lain serta menjauhi perbuatan-perbuatan haram. Hendaknya ia menjaga solat dengan menjalankannya tepat pada waktunya dan berjama’ah di masjid bagi kaum lelaki.
• Hendaknya selalu menjauhkan diri dari perbuatan-perbuatan tercela yang dapat menghapus pahala puasa seperti : Berdusta, berbuat curang, menipu, riba, berbicara yang haram dan sebagainya.
  

Keutamaan Puasa Ramadhan

• Dengan puasa Ramadhan Allah mengampuni dosa orang yang berpuasa dan memaafkan semua kesalahannya, Nabi sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam bersabda,

1. "Barang siapa berpuasa di bulan Ramadhan karena iman dan mengharap pahala dari Allah, maka Allah mengampuni dosanya yang telah lalu". (HR. al-Bukhari dan Muslim).

• Puasa Ramadhan tidak terhingga pahalanya, karena orang yang berpuasa akan mendapatkan pahala tanpa batas. Setiap muslim amalannya akan diberi ganjaran sebesar 10 hingga 700 kali ganda, kecuali puasa. Firman Allah di dalam hadis qudsi,

1. “...Kecuali puasa, sesungguhnya puasa itu untuk-Ku dan Aku sendiri yang akan mengganjarnya, ia menahan nafsu dan makan karena-Ku.” (HR. Muslim) *

• Puasa dapat membuka pintu syafa’at nanti pada hari Kiamat. Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam bersabda, “Sesunggunya puasa dan bacaan al-Qur’an memberi syafa’at kepada pelakunya pada hari Kiamat. Puasa berkata, ”Ya Tuhanku aku telah menahan hasrat makan dan syahwatnya, maka berilah aku izin untuk memberikan syafa’at kepadanya. Berkata pula al-Qur’an, ”Wahai Tuhanku, aku telah menghalanginya dari tidur untuk qiyamullail, maka berilah aku izin untuk memberikan syafa’at kepadanya. Nabi bersabda, ”Maka keduanya diberikan izin untuk memberi syafaat.” (HR. Ahmad).

Segala puji hanya bagi Allah, selawat dan salam semoga sentiasa terlimpahkan kepada Nabi Muhammad sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam, beserta para keluarga dan sahabatnya. Amin.

Something To Think About For This Coming Ramadhan

Thank you to the original writer...

Ramadhan Fallacy

1. I have been to many countries and observed that the custom of iftar (berbuka puasa) at hotel or restaurant only prevails in Malaysia. I do not know how and when this phenomenon started.

2. When I was attached to sales / marketing section some time ago, I had to make sure that all the company customers were invited to at least one session of iftar at hotel. If I was late to invite them or missed any one of them, they unashamedly asked me when their turn would be.

3. The cost per person is never less than RM60 while the food were just normal food that may cost in total RM10 if bought from the Ramadhan food stall. Think of mee goreng, karipap and air bandung. In fact, most of the times, the guests would not eat much.

4. The hotels are making huge profit during Ramadhan. The fasting Muslims contribute to this huge profit when rightfully they should be channeling the money to the more needy ones especially during Ramadhan. Spending RM60 per person for iftar goes against the very spirit of Ramadhan.

5. When Ramadhan should be the time for us to learn to be thrifty and to share with the less fortunate both emotionally and physically, we do the exact opposite. We even take for granted the halalness of the food that we take for iftar. Even worse, we invite others to join in the syubahat.

6. Most of the time, when we take iftar at hotel or restaurant, we miss to pray Maghrib on time. We will be too consumed with the food and the guests or spending long time queuing for the food. By the time we decide to pray, the small prayer room arranged by the hotel or the restaurant will be pack with the guests. By the time our turn to pray, it is almost Isha'.

7. Most of the time too, we will miss the Terawih prayer as the chatting and socializing will continue until the last meal is served. Some of us do plan to perform solat Terawih later at home during this particular night, but by the time we reach home, we are just too tired and directly go to sleep.

8. Nothing good is realized by having iftar at hotel or restaurant. This phenomenon defeats the very essence of Ramadhan in every single aspect. The better way to have iftar is either at home with the family members or friends or at functions that are laced with Islamic itineraries, or better still, at mosques.

Allahualam.

Prof. Syed Muhammad Naquib al-Attas on Usage of word "ALLAH

On December 13, 2009, during the Worldview of Islam Seminar organized by the Assembly of Muslim Intellectuals or Himpunan Keilmuan Muda (HAKIM), there was a question being posted to Professor Al-Attas regarding the polemical usage of the word "Allah" by the non-Muslims.

Below is the transcript of his brief-but-yet- concise enlightening remarks. As a word of caution, though, one must not only rely on this brief transcript alone to understand the whole spectrum of Prof. Al-Attas' view about this theological matter. Further thorough elucidation of his thought can be found in numerous works of this great Muslim scholar of this age, such as Prolegomena to the Metaphysics of Islam, Islam and Secularism, Islam dalam Sejarah dan Kebudayaan Melayu and A Commentary on Hujjat al-Siddiq of Nur al-Din al-Raniri.

Question: The using of kalimah “Allah” by other people in this country
Answers by Prof. Syed Muhammad Naquib Al-Attas:

Well I have been talking about this long time ago. I remember about this in ISTAC, when we first established ourselves (late 80’s and early 90’s), I think the Arcbishop of Penang was asking this question. And I have answered that.

And then we had a meeting with the Archbishop of Kuala Lumpur and about all the representatives of Christianity, including the ministers, we had a meeting at ISTAC.

And I said, “Why you want to use the word ‘Allah’ for yourself?”

They said “we going to pray in Bahasa Malaysia”

That’s the way they put it. So my answers to them, “Why you have to change praying into Bahasa Malaysia. You have been praying in English all the time. Why suddenly change into Bahasa Malaysia?”

Ok, so they said they want to change so that it more patriotic. Then in that case I’m saying that “why don’t you use Tuhan while praying in Bahasa Malaysia? Because you are talking about God isn’t it?…God is not just a name…”Allah” is a name of this Being whom you called God… and in fact a Being whom even higher than what you called to be God”

And then I said, “ …and “Allah” is not from Bahasa Malaysia. It is not a national language. It belongs to the language of Muslim all over the world. Therefore your argument using this for the word “Allah” does not fit into your idea of God. Because “Allah” does not have a son, It is not one of three (Trinity), that is why out of respect to Allah we can’t allow you to use this.“

But when we Muslim, when we write in English we say God, or when we talk to people we say God but we mean “Allah”…but they cannot say when they speak about God it means “Allah” as they don’t mean it.

So in this particular respect, we have to be clear about this, not was-was (hesitate).. . .whomever responsible in our governing, they have to be clear about this and to explain to others.

We agree you want to use God, then use Tuhan as we also use that…but we understand in the Malay language that Tuhan is not a translation of Allah..that is why we say “tiada Tuhan melainkan Allah” not “tiada Tuhan melainkan Tuhan”. We don’t say “there is not God but God”..at least the ulama’ among the Muslim Malays, we understand what is the meaning of that (word “Allah”).

So “Allah” cannot be translated as no language has translated Allah. The Arabs themselves they only use that after Islam..although the word existed (before)..the Christians Arab they also did not use Allah (in theological, epistemological and ontological sense in the same manner as the Muslim)..if they say that it is just a language..they talking about language..because they say “Allah” like the Muslim when they (melatah)…

So it appears they want to do that in order to confuse the Muslim into thinking that all the same..that is why I say one of the problems about religion is the nature of God..about who Allah is..that is why in Arkanul Iman (The Pillars of Faith), the first thing is “amana billah”.

“Who is this Allah?” and that need to be explain at higher institution in a proper way…

So we have answer the question. It is not proper to allow them using this, since they asking us and there is no point bringing this to court since this is not a matter of court to decide it whether they have the freedom to use it or not. It is up to the Muslims.

But then if they used it and said “in Indonesia they have use it, why can’t we?”…but it is because of the Muslims..if Muslims don’t care they will go on and use it..and in Indonesia they are using not only that, other things they even call it “choir” as “selawat”. Choir is not a “selawat”, as “selawat” is for Prophet..it’s not singing hymn..

And they also talk about..in Indonesia they are also confuse..Muslims. .that is why this thing happen. Sometimes the language when you come across English words like “Prophet of Doom” in Indonesia they said “Nabi celaka”. How can there be “Nabi celaka”? What is meant by the “Prophet of Doom” is…even the word Prophet in English does not mean “Nabi” only…it means “yang meramalkan malapetaka”..that what it means…so the “Prophet of Doom” means “yang meramalkan malapetaka”, not “Nabi celaka”.

They (the Muslims in Indonesia) seem not to bother about this. What we can say is that ultimately well they say “God is not Allah”...well if you want to use the word God, we are saying we also use the word God, we refer to Allah as we know and we are not saying that your God ultimately will not refer to Allah. You can’t run away from Allah. You can only escape Him and so in the Qur’an (surah An-Naas) says: “Qul aAAoothu birabbi annas, Maliki annas, Ilahi annas”. He (Allah) is saying “ I am the real Ilah (God) of naas (mankind)”, although mankind (non-Muslim) does not interpret it that way.

My comments:
If that is the case, that shows how persistent were the Christians in finding the loopholes be it in legal or cultural dimension to further their cause that might create confusion to the Muslim's polity if not being mitigated by the governing authority of this land.

As I iterated before, by having confused so-called Muslim authorities which normally appear in the silhouette of Salafism/Wahabbism as well the Modernist/Reformist (actually they are just the two sides of the same coin), the "public sphere" itself has been flooded with confused views which do no good to the Muslim's cause in defending their creed from blasphemy.

It is best to leave this matter to the Muslim scholars who have been trained as Theologians (mutakallimun), that possessed in depth understanding on Islamic Theology, Islamic and Western Philosophy as well knowledge about the Western Civilization (which Christianity is one of the mosaic part of the whole picture) to deal with this issue succinctly.

Most of them that I have known are the young protege of Muslim scholars who being trained by Prof. Al-Attas himself during his days in the "original" ISTAC like Prof. Wan Mohd. Nor Wan Daud (ATMA-UKM), Assoc. Prof. Dr. Zainiy Uthman (IIUM),Prof. Alparslan Acikgenc (Fatih University), Dr. Mustafa Ceric (Grand Mufti of Bosnia-Hezergovina) , Dr. Zaidi Ismail (IKIM), Dr. Sani Badron (IKIM), Dr. Wan Azhar (IKIM), Dr. Farid Shahran (former VP of ABIM, IIUM) Dr. Wan Suhaimi Wan Abdullah (UM), Dr. Azizan Sabjan (USM), Dr. Adi Setia (IIUM ) Ustaz Asham Ahmad (IKIM), Ustaz Nik Roskiman (IKIM) while Prof. Al-Attas' students from Indonesia who have fought closely in this issue the likes of Dr. Syamsuddin Arif, Dr. Hamid Fahmy Zarkasyi, Dr. Adian Husaini, Dr. Khalif Muammar, Ustaz Adnin Armas, Dr. Ugi Suharto and many others. Do google their name for further references.

RM2 billion ditarik balik dari peruntukan Kementerian Pelajaran

Apa natijahnya?

1. Pelajar yang tinggal di asrama diminta balik ke rumah-masing setiap hujung minggu. Macam mana cikgu nak buat kelas tambahan?
2. Banyak program pembangunan sukan sekolah terpaksa ditiadakan. Banyak sukan terpaksa membatalkan kejohanan peringkat Bawah 15 Tahun di peringkat kebangsaan.

Walaupun begitu, sekolah-sekolah masih diminta untuk menjalankan banyak aktiviti yang pada hemat aku boleh mengganggu waktu P&P. Bukankah lebih baik jika guru-guru dibebankan dengan tugas mengajar sahaja tanpa kerja-kerja perkeranian? Jikapun guru-guru perlu terlibat dengan tugasan luar sekolah, hanya untuk perkara yang mereka mahir atau faham sahaja. Kembalikan aktiviti sukan (MSSM Daerah/Negeri) pada waktu petang tanpa mengganggu waktu persekolahan.

My 1st Tag

1. Bekas kekasih saya adalah :
-seorang psiko

2. Saya sedang mendengar :
-berita pukul 8

3. Mungkin saya patut:
-belajar lebih bersungguh-sungguh dulu

4. Saya suka :
-facebooking... hehehe~

5.Sahabat-sahabat baik saya :
-sengal-sengal belaka...

6.Saya tak paham :
-kenapa mesti ada peperangan...

7.Saya kehilangan :
-ramai ahli keluarga tahun ini :-(

8.Ramai yang berkata :
-kan best kalau dapat bonus tahun ni... huhuhu~

9.Makna nama saya :
-perkauman :-p

10.Cinta itu adalah :
-apabila kita dapat melihat kesempurnaan dalam ketidaksempurnaan pasangan kita...

11.Di suatu tempat, seseorang sedang :
-tidur...

12.Saya akan cuba :
-berhenti merokok sepenuhnya...

13.Ayat SELAMANYA membawa maksud :
-abadi...

14.Telefon bimbit saya :
-ada 3... hehehe~

15.Bila saya terjaga dari tidur :
-bersyukur kepada Allah kerana masih bernafas...

16.Saya paling meluat apabila :
-ada talam dua muka...

17.Pesta/Parti adalah :
-perkara yang jarang saya pergi...

18.Haiwan yang paling comel yang saya pernah temui ialah :
-kucing-kucing peliharaan lila...

19.Peringkat umur yang paling menyeronokkan bagi saya ialah :
-masa kanak-kanak... happy go lucky...

20.Hari ini :
-saya meneruskan kehidupan seperti biasa...

21.Malam ini saya akan :
-ngadap laptop sampai terlelap...

22.Esok pula saya akan :
-gi sekolah la, apa lagi...

23.Saya betul-betul inginkan :
-kebahagiaan untuk keluarga saya...

24.Ketika anda lihat wajah anda di hadapan cermin pagi ini :
-siapakah lelaki kacak ini?

25.Pusat membeli-belah atau arked permainan :
-shopping mall la...

26.Makanan Barat atau Jepun :
-malay food...

27.Bilik yang terang atau gelap :
-gelap untuk tido, terang untuk buat keje...

28.Makanan segera adalah :
-untuk orang yang nak cepat

29.Ayat terakhir yang anda katakan pada seseorang?
-sayang, i love you...

30.Siapa yang anda nak Tag?
-aku nak tag ko, boleh?

The Grudge

Something from a friend of mine... worth to be shared... again, I shed my tears when I read it...


Just two years after our marriage, hubby brought up the idea of asking Mother to move from the rural hometown and spend her remaining years with us. Hubby's father passed away while he was still very young. Mother endured much hardship and struggled all on her own to provide for him, see him through to a university degree. You could say that she suffered a great deal and did everything you could expect of a woman to bring hubby to where he is today.

I immediately agreed and started packing the spare room, which has a balcony facing the South to let her enjoy the sunshine and plant greenery. Hubby stood in the bright room, and suddenly just picked me up and started spinning round and round. As I begged him to put me down, he said: "Lets go fetch mother.."

Hubby is tall and big sized and I love to test on his chest and enjoy the feeling that he could pick me up at any moment put the tiny me into his pockets. Whenever we have an argument and both refuses to back down, he would pick me up and spin me over his head continuously until I surrender and beg for mercy. I became addicted to this kind of panic-joy feeling.

Mother brought along her countryside habits and lifestyle with her. For example; I am so used to buying flowers to decorate the living room, she could not stand it and would comment: "I do not know how you young people spend your money, why do you buy flowers for? You also can't eat flowers!" I smiled and said: "Mum, with flowers in the house, our mood will also become better." Mother continues to grumble away, and hubby smiled: "Mum, this is a city-people' s habit; slowly you will get use to it."

Mother stopped saying anything. But every time thereafter, whenever came home with flowers, she would ask me how much it costs. I told her and she would shake her head and express displeasure. Sometimes, when I come home with lots of shopping bags, she would ask each and every item how much they cost, I would tell her honestly and she would get even more upset about it. Hubby playfully pinched my nose and said: "You little fool, just don't tell her the full price of everything would solve it."

There begins the friction to our otherwise happy lifestyle. Mother hates it most when hubby wakes up early to prepare the breakfast. In your view, how could the man of the house cook for the wife? At the breakfast table, mother facial expression is always like the dark clouds before a thunderstorm and I would pretend not to notice. She would use her chopsticks and make a lot of noise with it as her silent protest.

As I am a dance teacher in the Children's Palace and am exhausted from along day of dancing around, I do not wish to give up the luxury of that additional few minutes in the comfort of my bed and hence I turned a deaf ear to all the protest mother makes. From time to time, mother would help out with some housework, but soon her help created additional work for me. For example: she would keep all kinds of plastic bags accumulating them so that she sell them later on, and resulted in our house being filled with all the trash bags; she would scrimp on dish washing detergent when helping to wash the dishes and so as not to hurt her feelings, I would quietly wash them again.

One day, late at night, mother saw me quietly washing the dishes, and "Bam" she slams her bedroom door and cried very loudly in her room. Hubby was placed in a difficult position, and after that, he did not speak to me for that entire night. I pretended to be a spoilt child, tried acting cute, but he totally ignored me.... I got mad and asked him: "What did I do wrong?" Hubby stared at me and said: "Can't you just give in to her once? We couldn't possibly die eating from a bowl however unclean it is, right?"

After that incident, for a long period of time, mother did not speak to me and you can feel that there is a very awkward feeling hanging in the house. During that period of cold war, hubby was caught in dilemma as to who to please. In order to stop her son from having to prepare breakfast, mother took on the "all important" task of preparing breakfast without any prompting. At the breakfast table, mother would look at hubby happily eating his breakfast and cast that reprimanding stare at me for having failed to perform my duty as a wife. To avoid the embarrassing breakfast situation, I resorted to buying my own breakfast on my way to work.

That night, while in bed, hubby was a little upset and asked me: "LD, is it because you think that mum's cooking is not clean that's why you chose not to eat at home?" He then turned his back on me and left me alone in tears as feeling of unfairness overwhelmed me. After some time, hubby sighed: "LD, just for me, can you have breakfast at home?" I am left with no choice but to return to the breakfast table..

The next morning, I was having porridge prepared by mother and I felt a sudden churn in my stomach and everything inside seem to be rushing up my throat. I tried to suppress the urge to throw up but I could not. I threw down the bowl, rushed into the washroom, and vomited everything out.

Just as I was catching my breath, I saw mother crying and grumbling very loudly in her dialect, hubby was standing at the washroom doorway staring at me with fire burning in his eyes.. I opened my mouth but no words came out of it, I really did not mean it.

We had our very first big fight that day; mother took a look at us, then stood up and slowly made her way out of the house. Hubby gave me a final stare in the eye and followed mother down the stairs..

For three days, hubby did not return home, not even a phone call. I was so furious, since mother arrived; I had been trying my best and putting up with her, what else do you want me to do? For no reason, I keep having the feeling to throw up and I simply have not appetite for food, coupled with all the events happening at home, I was at then low point in my life.

Finally, a colleague said: "LD, you look terrible; you should go and see a doctor." The doctor confirmed that I am pregnant.

Now it became clear to me why I threw up that fateful morning, a sense of sadness floated through that otherwise happy news. Why didn't hubby, and mother who had been through this before, thought of the possibility of this being the reason that day? At the hospital entrance, I saw my hubby standing there. It had only been three days, but he looked haggard. I had wanted to turn and leave, but one look at him and my heart soften, I couldn't resist and called out to him. He followed my voice and finally found me but he pretended that he doesn't know me; he has that disgusted look in his eyes that cut right through my heart. I told myself not to look at him anymore, and hail a cab.. At that moment, I have such a strong urge inside me to shout to my hubby: "Darling, I am having your baby!" and have him lift me up and spin me around in circles of joy.

What I wanted didn't happen and as I sat in the cab, my tears started rolling down.

Why? Why our love couldn't even withstand the test of one fight?

Back home, I lay on the bed thinking about my hubby, and the disgusted look in his eyes. I cried and wet the corner of the blanket That night, sound of the drawers opening woke me up. I switched on the lights and I saw hubby with tears rolling down his face. He was removing the money.

I stared at him in silence; he ignored me, took the bank deposit book and some money and left the house. Maybe he really intends to leave me for good.

What a rational man, so clear-cut in love and money matters. I gave a few dried laugh and tears starting streaming down again. The next day, I did not go to work. I wanted to clear this out and have a good talk with hubby. I reached his office and his secretary gave me a weird look and said: "Mr. Tan's mother had a traffic accident and is now in the hospital."

I stood there in shock.. I rushed to the hospital and by the time I found hubby, mother had already passed away. Hubby did not look at me, his face was expressionless. I looked at mother's pale white and thin face and I couldn't control the tears in my eyes. My god, how could this happen?

Throughout the funeral, hubby did not say a single word to me, with only the occasional disgusted stare at me. I only managed to find out brief facts about the accident from other people. That day, after mother left the house, she walked in dazed toward the bus stop, apparently intending to go back to her old house back in the countryside. As hubby ran after her, she tried to walk faster and as she tried to cross the street, a public bus came and hit her...I finally understood how much hubby must hate me, if I had not thrown up that morning, if we had not quarreled, if....In his heart, I am indirectly the killer of his mother.

Hubby moved into mother's room and came home every night with a strong liquor smell on him. And me, I am buried under the guilt and self-pity and could hardly breathe. I wanted to explain to him, tell him that we are going to have our baby soon, but each time, I saw the dead look in his eyes, all the words I have at the brink of my mouth just fell back in. I had rather he hit me real hard or give me a big and thorough scolding though none of these events happening had been my fault at all.

Many days of suffocating silence went by and as the days went by, hubby came home later and later. The deadlock between us continues, we were living together like strangers who don't know each other. I am like the dead knot in his heart.

One day, I passed by a western restaurant, looking into the glass window, I saw hubby and a girl sitting facing each other and he very lightly brushed her hair for her, I understood what it meant. After recovering from that moment of shock, I entered the restaurant, stood in front of my hubby and stared hard at him, not a tear in my eyes. I have nothing to say to him, and there is no need to say anything. The girl looked at me, looks at hubby, stands up and wanted to go, hubby stretched out his hand and stopped her. He stared back at me,challenging me. I can only hear my slow heart beat, beating, one by one as if at the brink of death. I eventually backed down, if I had stood that any longer, I will collapse together with the baby inside me.

That night, he did not come home; he had chosen to use that as a way to indicate to me: Following mother's death so did our love for each other. He did not come home anymore after that. Sometimes, when I returned home from work, I can tell that the cupboard had been touched - he had returned to take some of his stuff. I no longer wish to call him; the initial desire to explain everything to him vanished. I lived alone; I go for my medical checkups alone, my heart breaks again and again every time I see a guy carefully helping his wife through the physical examination.

My office colleagues hinted to me to consider aborting the baby, I told them No, I will not... I insisted on having to this baby, perhaps it is my way of repaying mother for causing her death. One day, I came home and I saw hubby sitting in the living room. The whole house was filled with cigarette smoke. On the coffee table, there was this piece of paper. I know what it is all about without even looking at it. In the two months plus of living alone, I have gradually learned to find peace within myself. I looked at him, removed my hat and said: "You wait a while, I will sign." He looked at me, mixed feelings in his eyes, just like mine.

As I hang up my coat, I keep repeating to myself "You cannot cry, you cannot cry...." my eyes hurt terribly, but I refused to let tears come out from there. After I hung up my coat, hubby's eyes stared fixed at my bulging tummy. I smiled, walked over to the coffee table and pulled the paper towards me. Without even looking at what it says, I signed my name on it and pushed the paper to him. "LD, are you pregnant?"

Since mother's accident, this is the first time he spoke to me.

I could not control my tears any further and they fell like raindrops. I said: "Yes, but its ok, you can leave now." He did not go. In the dark, we sat, facing each other.. Hubby slowly moved over me, his tears wet the blanket.

In my heart, everything seems so far away, so far that even if I sprint, I could never reach them. I cannot remember how many times he repeated "sorry" to me. I had originally thought that I would forgive him, but now I can't..

In the western restaurant, in front of that girl, that cold look in his eyes, I will never forget, ever. We have drawn such deep scars in each other's heart. For me, it's unintentional; for him, totally intentional. .

I had been waiting for this moment of reconciliation, but I realized now, what had gone past is gone forever and could not repeated.

Other than the thought of the baby inside me that would bring some warmth to my heart, I am totally cold towards him, I no longer eat anything he buys for me, I don't take any presents from him and I stopped talking to him. From the moment I signed on that piece of paper, marriage and love had vanished from my heart.

Sometimes, hubby will try to come into the bedroom, but when he walks in, I will walk out to the living room. He had no choice but to sleep in mother's room. At night, from his room, I can hear light sounds of groaning, I kept quiet. This used to be his trick; last time, whenever I ignore him, he would fake illness and I will surrender and find out what is wrong with him, he would then grab me and laugh. He has forgotten that last time I cared for him and am concerned because there was love, but now, what is there between us?

Hubby's groaning came on and off continuing but I continuously ignored him.

Almost everyday, he would buy something for the baby, infant products, children products and books that kids like to read. Bags and bags of it stacked inside his room till it is full. I know he is trying to use this to reach out to me, but I am no longer moved by his actions. He has no choice but to lock himself in his room and I can hear his typing away on his computer keyboard, maybe he is now addicted to web surfing but none of that matters to me anymore.

It was sometime towards the end of Spring in the following year, one late night, I screamed because of a sudden stomach pain, hubby came rushing into the room, its like he did not change and sleep, and had been waiting for this moment. He carried me and ran down the stairs, stopped a car, holding my hand very tightly and kept wiping the sweat off my brow, throughout the journey to the hospital.

Once we reached the hospital, he carried me and hurried into the delivery suite. Lying on the back of his skinny but warmth body, a thought crossed my mind: In my lifetime, who else would love me as much as he did?

He held the delivery suite door opened and watch me go in; his warm eyes caused me to manage a smile at him despite my contraction pain.

Coming out of the delivery room, hubby looked at our son and me, eyes tear with joy and he kept smiling. I reached out and touched his hand.. Hubby looked at me, smiling and then he slowly collapsed onto the floor.

I cried out for him in pain... He smiled, but without opening that tired eyes of his... I had thought that I would never shed any tear for him, but the truth is, I have never felt a deeper pain cutting through my body at that moment.

Doctor said that by the time hubby discovered he had liver cancer, it was already in terminal stage and it was a miracle that he managed to last this long. I asked the doctor when he first discovered he had cancer. Doctor said about 5 months ago and consoled me saying: "Prepare for his funeral."

I disregarded the nurse's objection and rushed home, I went into his room and checked his computer, and a suffocating pain hits me. Hubby's cancer was discovered 5 months ago, his groaning was real, and I had thought that... the computer showed over 200 thousand words he wrote for our son:

"Son, just for you, I have persisted, to be able to take a look at you before I fall, is my biggest wish now... I know that in your life, you will have many happiness and maybe some setbacks, if only I can accompany you throughout that journey, how nice would it be. But daddy now no longer has that chance. Daddy has written inside here all the possible difficulties and problems you may encounter during your lifetime, when you meet with these problems, you can refer to daddy's suggestion....

Son, after writing these 200 thousand words, I feel as if I have accompanied you through life journey. To be honest, daddy is very happy. Do love your mother, she has suffered, she is the one who loves you most and also the one who loves me most...."

From play school to primary school, to secondary, university, to work and even in dealing with questions of love, everything big and small was written there.

Hubby has also written a letter for me:
"My dear, to marry you is my biggest happiness, forgive me for the pain I have caused you, forgive me for not telling you my illness, because I want to see you be in a joyful mood waiting for the arrival of our baby...My dear, if you cried, it means that you have forgiven me and I would smile, thank you for loving me...These presents, I'm afraid I cannot give them to our son personally, could you help me to give some of them to him every year, the dates on what to give when are all written on the packaging.."

Going back to the hospital, hubby is still in coma. I brought our son over and place him beside him. I said: "Open your eyes and smile, I want our son to remember being in the warmth of your arms..." He struggled to open his eyes and managed a weak smile. Our son still in his arms was happily waving his tiny hands in the air. I press the button on the camera and the sound of the shutter rang through the air as tears slowly rolled down my face.....

A fatal misunderstanding and the person who loves me the most in this world is gone forever... "Cruel misunderstandings one after another disrupted the blissful footsteps to our family. Our original intend of having Mother enjoy some quiet and peaceful moments in her remaining years with us went terribly wrong as destiny's secret is finally revealed at a price, every thing became too late."...... ..

A Very Touching Story

I've cried when I read it the first time...

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to take care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by... Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy. My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him:

"But why did u post so many letters, at one time?"

My son's reply was:

"I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say.....

I told my son, "Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn't help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven't you appear?

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....


For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem.

Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable. Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first. With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.

Tugas Tambahan Jejas Keupayaan Guru

Azrul Affandi Sobry

AWAL tahun, hari sukan, hari kokurikulum, mesyuarat agung Persatuan Ibu Bapa dan Guru (PIBG), hari terbuka, musim peperiksaan, pertandingan peringkat daerah dan negeri, minggu suai kenal serta banyak lagi beban kerja yang selama ini terpaksa ditanggung guru sehingga sering kali memberi tekanan kepada mereka.

Guru kini bukan sekadar pengajar, malah semakin kurang dapat memberi tumpuan kepada aktiviti pengajaran dan pembelajaran, walaupun semua pihak menekankan kewajipan itu sebagai skop tugas utama guru di sekolah. Apa tidaknya, jengoklah ke mana-mana sekolah, atau tanyalah kepada mana-mana guru pun, pasti keluhan dan rungutan yang akan kedengaran mengenai tumpuan tugas mereka yang semakin hari semakin membebankan.

Itulah gambaran yang sewajarnya dilihat bagi menceritakan betapa guru kini tidak seperti guru pada satu zaman sebelum ini yang dihormati atas kredibiliti sebagai guru yang tegas dalam menyampaikan pengajaran serta cukup disegani atas kedudukan sebagai gedung ilmu.

Banyak pihak yang mungkin mencebik, menjuih bibir apabila guru merungut mengenai beban yang mereka hadapi. Tak kurang juga yang mengatakan guru ketika ini manja dan banyak ‘songeh’ serta pelbagai kritikan lagi seperti - ‘sudahlah kerja separuh hari, cuti banyak pula, itupun nak merungut’.

Namun, mereka yang kebanyakannya menyalahkan guru dalam isu rungutan itu mungkin tidak peka mengenai situasi sebenar kerjaya itu ketika ini yang bukan sekadar kerap perlu bekerja melebihi masa sepatutnya, malah dibebani dengan longgokan kerja yang ada kalanya tak selesai di sekolah, terpaksa dibawa sehingga atas katil sebelum tidur.

Hampir kebanyakan tugas yang selayaknya diuruskan kerani atau pegawai data kini menjadi tanggungjawab guru. Daripada tugas merekod maklumat murid, data peribadi, keputusan peperiksaan secara manual dan berkomputer, bayaran yuran, rekod pinjaman buku teks, inventori aset sekolah sehinggalah kepada urusan pada peringkat pejabat pendidikan daerah serta jabatan pelajaran negeri.

Justeru, tak wajar guru dulu dan sekarang dijadikan perbandingan kerana pada zaman berteknologi maklumat serba canggih ini, semuanya perlu direkodkan secara berkomputer walaupun rekod bertulis turut perlu dibuat dan yang menyedihkan, bukan semua guru ada komputer atau lebih parah lagi, tak semuanya celik komputer.

Sebagai contoh, setiap tahun guru perlu mengemaskini maklumat murid serta data peribadinya. Tak cukup dengan itu, kutipan yuran perlu dibuat sendiri dan direkodkan dengan kemas. Maklumat lain termasuk rekod pinjaman buku teks dan keputusan peperiksaan perlu dikemas kini segera.

Bagi guru yang ditugaskan mengepalai panitia pula, beban itu ditambah dengan keperluan menyediakan kertas soalan peperiksaan hampir setiap dua atau tiga bulan. Ada pula guru yang mahir sedikit dalam reka bentuk grafik ditugaskan pula menyediakan grafik untuk majalah sekolah.

Tidak perlulah diperincikan semua beban tugas lain yang perlu lakukan kerana realitinya itu bukan tugas utama guru di sekolah, malah tak pernah diajar ketika mereka mengambil kursus perguruan di Institut Pendidikan Guru (IPG). Guru kelas pula pastinya sering merungut setiap kali musim kemas kini data tiba dan mereka ini juga yang kebiasaannya ditugaskan sebagai guru panitia, guru pembimbing rumah sukan serta kelab.

Persoalannya, bukankah semua beban tugas itu sewajarnya dilakukan oleh mereka yang lebih pakar dalam tugas merekod data atau maklumat. Bukankah kerja membabitkan kewangan perlu dilaksanakan kerani kewangan dan perihal data pula diuruskan oleh pegawai data? Memang ada guru data di sekolah, tetapi mereka sebenarnya bukan fokus dalam hal data semata-mata kerana perlu juga mengajar di kelas, malah ada yang perlu mengajar subjek kritikal.

Guru IT pula hanya layak mengajar asas komputer seperti menggunakan perisian Microsoft Word, Powerpoint atau Excel tanpa ada skil membuat sistem data yang lebih memudahkan guru memasukkan maklumat secara pantas dan pengiraan markah peperiksaan dibuat secara berkomputer, malah guru IT juga guru biasa yang perlu mengajar.

Pengerusi Majlis Permuafakatan Kesatuan Guru Malaysia, Jemali Paiman, berkata kementerian wajar mewujudkan satu jawatan baru di sekolah iaitu staf sokongan yang ditugaskan merekodkan data.

“Ketika ini, guru terutama guru kelas adalah mereka yang paling teruk dibebani dengan tugas tambahan selain mengajar dan ia paling kritikal ketika musim persekolahan baru bermula. Ketika itu, guru bukan setakat perlu menyediakan maklumat peribadi pelajarnya tetapi dibebani dengan banyak lagi tugas lain.

“Mereka perlu mengutip yuran, sediakan buku kedatangan pelajar, dapatkan maklumat murid serta keluarga mereka seterusnya membuat analisis kelayakan untuk diberi bantuan, malah guru juga bertindak sebagai pegawai kesihatan yang merekodkan maklumat kesihatan.

“Justeru, penambahan jawatan staf sokongan itu amat penting untuk mengembalikan guru kepada tugas sebenar mereka iaitu mengajar. Mereka perlu fokus untuk pengajaran, bukan dalam kerja pekeranian. Jangan biarkan mereka terus buat banyak kerja lain setiap hari dan pening kepala setiap hujung bulan,” katanya.

Jemali turut bersetuju bahawa guru kini bukan sekadar layak digelar kerani tetapi mungkin tukang kebun, pengasuh, pereka grafik, tukang cat dan semua beban kerja yang dilonggokkan ke bahu mereka. Katanya, masa yang lapang hanya dua atau tiga waktu tetapi mengikut pekeliling, ia perlu diisi dengan persiapan mengajar.

“Cuti tahunan atau cuti rehat khas hanya ada tujuh hari. Mana cukup untuk digunakan apabila perlu. Berbeza dengan sektor lain, mereka ada tempoh cuti tahunan lebih panjang dan dapat fokus pada skop kerja mereka.

“Contohnya, mana ada jururawat yang ditugaskan membuat landskap hospital. Mana ada jurutera yang ditugaskan mengecat bangunan pejabat, tapi guru ada ketikanya perlu buat semua itu. malah, mural sekolah atau mengecat bangunan sekolah juga tergalas di bahu mereka,” katanya.

Justeru, adalah wajar kementerian memantau apa keperluan dan keperitan yang dihadapi penggerak utama dalam sektor pendidikan di negara ini. Jangan satu hari nanti, kerjaya guru tidak lagi dipandang tinggi lantaran tidak lagi bertindak sebagai penyampai ilmu berkaliber kerana terlalu fokus pada tugas lain.

Dipetik dari Ruangan Rencana Berita Harian 29 September 2009

Lailatul Qadar DiHayati Kemenangan DiRai

السلام عليكم
الحَمْدُ للهِ الَّذِيْ أَرْسَلَ رَسُوْلَهُ بِالهُدَى وَدِيْنِ الحَقِّ لِيُظْهِرَهُ عَلَى الدِّيْنِ كُلِّهِ وَلَوْ كَرِهَ المُشْرِكُوْنَ أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لاإِلهَ إِلا اللهُ وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ سَيِّدَنَا مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُوْلُهُ اللّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلِّمْ وَبَارِكْ عَلىَ سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَأَصْحَابِهِ وَمَنْ تَبِعَهُمْ بِإِحْسَانٍ إِلَى يَوْمِ الدِّيْنِ …أَمَّا بَعْدُ…فَيَا عِبَادَ اللهِ ! اتَّقُوْا اللهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلاتمَوُْتُنَّ إِلا وَأَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُوْنَ …

Wahai hamba-hamba Allah ! Bertaqwalah sekalian kamu kepada Allah dengan sebenar-benar taqwa. Dan Janganlah kamu mati melainkan dalam keadaan Islam.
Saya menyeru diri saya sendiri dan juga sidang Jumaat sekalian agar kita sama-sama meningkatkan ketaqwaan kita kepada Allah dengan melakukan segala suruhanNya dan menjauhi segala yang ditegahNya.

Sidang Jumaat yang dihormati sekalian,
Firman Allah dalam ayat 1-5 surah al-Qadar :
إِنَّا أَنْزَلْنَاهُ فِي لَيْلَةِ الْقَدْرِ وَمَا أَدْرَاكَ مَا لَيْلَةُ الْقَدْرِ لَيْلَةُ الْقَدْرِ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَلْفِ شَهْرٍ تَنَزَّلُ الْمَلَائِكَةُ وَالرُّوحُ فِيهَا بِإِذْنِ رَبِّهِمْ مِنْ كُلِّ أَمْرٍ سَلَامٌ هِيَ حَتَّىٰ مَطْلَعِ الْفَجْرِ
Maksudnya: Sesungguhnya Kami telah menurunkan (Al-Quran) ini pada Malam Lailatul-Qadar. Dan tahukah engkau apakah itu Lailatul-Qadar?. Lailatul-Qadar lebih baik daripada seribu bulan. Pada Malam itu, turun malaikat dan Jibril dengan izin Tuhan mereka untuk mengatur segala urusan. Sejahteralah Malam (yang berkat) itu hingga terbit fajar!

Kini kita telah berada pada 10 hari dan malam terakhir daripada bulan Ramadhan yang dijanjikan Allah bahawa ada di antara malamnya suatu malam yang lebih baik daripada seribu bulan. Anugerah yang amat berharga ini telah dijelaskan oleh Allah dalam surah al-Qadr di mana antara sebab turunnya surah ini ialah sebagaimana disebut oleh Ibu Jarir mengeluarkan daripada Mujahid dengan katanya: Adalah pada umat bani Israel ada seorang pemuda mendirikan malam sehingga Subuh. Kemudian dia berjihad melawan musuh pada siang hari sehingga petang. Dia melakukan amalan ini selama seribu tahun lalu Allah menurunkan ayat ini yang memberi galakan dan kelebihan kepada umat nabi Muhammad s.a.w yang mendirikan malam al-Qadar di mana mereka akan memperolehi ganjaran yang lebih baik daripada pemuda bani Israel tadi

Daripada Sayyidatina ‘Aisyah telah berkata : Adalah Rasulullah S.A.W telah beriktikaf pada malam-malam sepuluh terakhir daripada Ramadhan dan baginda S.A.W bersabda yang bermaksud : Carilah malam lailatul qadar pada sepuluh malam terakhir daripada Ramadhan
Antara hikmat disembunyikan Lailatul Qadar menurut Imam al-Razi seorang ahli tafsir terkenal ialah yang Pertama : Agar umat Islam dapat membesarkan keseluruhan malam bulan Ramadhan tanpa memilih malam tertentu sahaja. Kedua : Bimbang umat Islam tidak berusaha untuk merebutnya dengan amal ibadat walau pun telah ditetapkan malam tertentu atau pun dia melakukan maksiat pada malam itu sehingga mendapat kemurkaan Allah kerana berbuat maksiat dalam keadaan tahu lebih besar dosanya. Ketiga : Supaya umat Islam bersungguh-sungguh mencari Lailatul Qadar sehingga dia mampu memperbanyakkan ibadat lalu dia memperolehi pahala daripada kesungguhannya itu. Keempat : Melahirkan umat yang menghidupkan keseluruhan malam Ramadhan dengan harapan akan berkebetulan dengan Lailatul Qadar sehingga meningkat amal solehnya.

Amat malang jika orang lain menggunakan masa yang begitu istimewa ini untuk beriktikaf di masjid sedangkan kita asyik sibuk di Super Market. Amat rugi jika orang lain sibuk menggandakan amal soleh pada hari-hari terakhir Ramadhan sedangkan kita terlalu sibuk dengan persiapan hari raya. Amat kurang cerdik bila orang lain lebih mengejar tawaran istimewa daripada Allah sedangkan kita lebih seronok menyahut jualan murah di pasaraya. Amat kurang bijak bila orang lain berlumba menambah bekalan akhirat sedangkan kita terus asyik dengan dunia

Sidang Jumaat yang dirahmati Allah,
Firman Allah dalam ayat 123 surah Ali Imran :
وَلَقَدْ نَصَرَكُمُ اللَّهُ بِبَدْرٍ وَأَنْتُمْ أَذِلَّةٌ ۖ فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ
Maksudnya : Sesungguhnya Allah telah membantu kamu dalam peperangan Badar sedangkan kamu ketika itu adalah orang-orang yang lemah

Ramadhan pernah menyaksikan kemenangan besar tentera Islam dalam peperangan Badar al-Kubra pada 17 Ramadhan tahun 2 Hijrah dan pembukaan Kota Mekah pada tahun 8 Hijrah menunjukkan kepada kita bagaimana lemahnya nafsu membolehkan semangat juang semakin kuat. Puasa bukan penghalang yang memadamkan semangat juang sebaliknya ia sebagai suatu tarbiah yang berharga dalam melahirkan umat yang hanya takut kepada Allah sehingga tidak akan tunduk kepada musuh walau apa pun yang berlaku.

Antara faktor utama kemenangan tentera Islam dalam mengalahkan musuh ialah

[1] Teguh hati di mana tanpa keteguhan hati pasukan muslimin dan peneguhan Allah dengan malaikat-Nya, maka tidak akan wujud kemenangan untuk mereka. Keteguhan hati ini sangat penting kerana perjalanan dakwah adalah jalan sangat panjang dan banyak rintangannya. Dengan keteguhan hati inilah yang menyebabkan mereka mendapat kemenangan, kemuliaan dan pahala yang besar. Keteguhan dalam menyatakan kebenaran, tidak tergoda dengan takhta, harta dan wanita serta habuan dunia yang membolehkan kan pasukan muslimin mencapai kemenangan.

[2] Zikrullah iaitu dengan mengingati Allah sebanyak mungkin secara lisan dan hati. Ternyata syarat kemenangan berpihak kepada orang yang sentiasa ingat Allah dengan selalu berzikir, berdoa dan qiamulail. Mengingati Allah ketika berperang akan menyebabkan seseorang akan mencapai ketinggian ubudiah kehambaaan dan keimanan kepada Allah serta tawakkal kepada Allah. Keteguhan hati dan zikrullah adalah cara untuk mencapai kejayaan di dunia dan akhirat.

Sidang Jumaat yang dirahmati Allah,
Firman Allah dalam ayat 46 surah al-A’araf :
وَأَطِيعُوا اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَلَا تَنَازَعُوا فَتَفْشَلُوا وَتَذْهَبَ رِيحُكُمْ ۖ وَاصْبِرُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ
Maksudnya : Dan taatlah kamu kepada Allah dan RasulNya, dan janganlah kamu berbantah-bantahan; kalau tidak nescaya kamu menjadi lemah semangat dan hilang kekuatan kamu, dan sabarlah (menghadapi segala kesukaran dengan cekal hati); sesungguhnya Allah beserta orang-orang yang sabar

Faktor yang seterusnya dalam meraih kemenangan ialah

[3] Taat kepada Allah dan RasulNya di mana pertolongan dan bantuan daripada Allah hanya akan muncul bersama dengan ketaatan kepada Allah dan RasulNya.

[4] Tiada perselisihan di mana keteguhan hati, zikrullah, dan taat kepada Allah dan RasulNya, apabila diikuti dengan berbantah-bantahan maka yang akan terjadi adalah kegagalan dan hilangnya kekuatan. Dalam perang Badar misalnya, Allah menjaga pasukan Muslimin daripada perselisihan dan berbantah-bantahan.

[5] Sabar dalam menghadapi ujian dan kesusahan kerana sabar adalah senjata kekuatan sesuatu pasukan. Sabar dalam menghadapi pertempuran dan sabar dalam menghadapi musibah adalah jaminan bagi sempurnanya pertolongan yang akan diberikan Allah. Sabar bukan bererti pasif. Oleh hal yang demikian, sabar harus sentiasa diiringi dengan ikhtiar dan mujahadah.

[6] Ikhlas di mana kemenangan tidak boleh diraih dengan kesombongan dan riak. Allah pasti akan menolong orang-orang yang berperang di jalanNya dengan niat yang ikhlas. Dalam Islam, bilangan bukanlah faktor yang menentukan segala-galanya tetapi faktor kualiti adalah sesuatu yang perlu diutamakan

Sidang Jumaat yang dirahmati Allah,
Sempena berada dalam bulan Ramadhan yang merupakan bukan perjuangan dalam menewaskan musuh yang tersembunyi iaitu nafsu dan musuh daripada golongan kuffar yang sentiasa memerangi umat Islam maka ini semua menuntut agar kita memenuhi segala syarat kemenangan barulah Allah akan datangkan kemenangan yang dijanjikan. Renungilah nasib yang menimpa saudara seagama kita yang sedang ditindas di tanahair sendiri seperti di Selatan Thailand, Mindanao Filiphina, Palestin, Iraq, Afghanistan, Kashmir, Chechnya dan lainnya di mana atas nama memerangi keganasan maka negara umat Islam yang menjadi mangsa keganasan. Begitu juga nasib yang menimpa saudara kita apabila Kerajaan Xinjiang, China kembali mengeluarkan peraturan yang tidak adil dan ‘tidak menghormati hak asasi manusia’ terhadap muslim Uighur yang diancam akan diberhentikan dari pekerjaannya jika diketahui tidak makan pada waktu makan siang. Kempen makan siang, teh, dan kopi diberi percuma sebagai taktik untuk mengetahui siapa yang berpuasa. Para pemilik restoran Muslim dipaksa menandatangani sebuah dokumen yang menyatakan bahawa restoran akan tetap dibuka dan menjual minuman beralkohol dibulan Ramadhan, jika tidak lesennya akan ditarik. Para imam masjid dipaksa untuk berceramah kepada yang lain bahawa puasa adalah aktiviti yang berbahaya bagi kesihatan. Jika tidak, kewarganegaraan mereka akan ditarik balik. Tiada guna merayu pada musuh, tiada manfaat mengadu kepada lawan. Apa yang diharapkan ialah bantuan daripada saudara seagama yang lebih takut kepada Allah daripada musuh durjana, saudara yang lebih pentingkan akhirat daripada dunia. Berubahlah hasil tarbiah Ramadhan agar kita berjaya dunia dan akhirat.

Firman Allah dalam ayat 35 surah al-Maidah :
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللهَ وَابْتَغُوا إِلَيْهِ الْوَسِيلَةَ وَجَاهِدُوا فِي سَبِيلِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

Maksudnya : Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Bertakwalah kepada Allah dan carilah jalan yang boleh mendekatkan diri kepadaNya dan berjuanglah pada jalan Allah (untuk menegakkan Islam) supaya kamu beroleh kejayaan.

بَارَكَ اللهُ لِيْ وَلَكُمْ فِي القُرْآنِ العَظِيْمِ وَنَفَعَنِي وَإِيَّاكُمْ بِمَا فِيْهِ مِنَ الآيَاتِ وَالذِّكْرِ الحَكِيْمِ وَتَقَبَّلَ مِنِّي وَمِنْكُمْ تِلاوَتَهُ إِنَّهُ هُوَ السَّمِيْعُ العَلِيْمُ وَاسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ العَظِيْمَ لِيْ وَلَكُمْ وَلِسَائِرِ الُمْسِلِمْينَ وَالمُسْلِمَاتِ وَالمُؤْمِنِيْنَ وَالمُؤْمِنَاتِ فَاسْتَغْفِرُوْهُ فَيَا فَوْزَ المُسْتَغْفِرِيْنَ وَيَا نَجَاةَ التَّائِبِيْنَ

Dialog Suami Isteri Di Bulan Ramadhan

S : kenapa hari tu you sampai 3 hari tak bercakap dengan I?
I : ye la, you selalu je sakitkan hati I, sengaja je sakitkan hati I, mana I tak angin?
S : la, apa salah I sayang?
I : you dah tau I tak suka rumah bersepah, you sepah-sepahkan... tolong la I berkemas... you kerja, I pun kerja sayang... ini tak, mengadap TV je...
S : sorry la sayang...
I : sorry je la yang you tau... angin I satu badan, you tau tak? kalau I tak lepaskan angin tu, mau sakit hati I, meletup I nanti...
S : ye la, lepaskan la angin you tu kat I... tapi jangan pulak you lepaskan angin lain kat I tau? pengsan I nanti...
I : itu pulak u fikir...
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S : nasib baik talaq tu kat lelaki...
I : kenapa pulak?
S : sebab kalau talaq kat tangan you, kalau seminggu 2 kali you angin dengan I, you ceraikan I, dah setahun kita kawen ni, mau 104 kali I jadi duda...
I : hampeh betul laki aku ni...

Cerita ini tiada kena mengena dengan mana-mana individu, sama ada yang telah hidup mahupun yang masih meninggal dunia...

Why should A Muslim Woman wear the Hijab?

1. You please Allah. You are obeying the commands of your Lord when you wear the hijab and you can expect great rewards in return.
2. It is Allah’s protection of your natural beauty. You are too precious to be 'on display' for each man to see.
3. It is Allah’s preservation of your chastity.
4. Allah purifies your heart and mind through the hijab.
5. Allah beautifies your inner and outer countenance with hijab. Outwardly your hijab reflects innocence, purity, modesty, shyness, serenity, contentment and obedience to your Lord. Inwardly you cultivate the same.
6. Allah defines your femininity through the hijab. You are a woman who respects her womanhood. Allah wants you to be respected by others, and for you to respect yourself.
7. Allah raises your dignity through the hijab. When a strange man looks at you, he respects you because he sees that you respect yourself.
8. Allah protects your honor 100% through your hijab. Men do not gaze at you in a sensual way, they do not approach you in a sensual way, and neither do they speak to you in a sensual way. Rather, a man holds you in high esteem and that is just by one glance at you!
9. Allah gives you nobility through the hijab. You are noble not degraded because you covered not naked.
10. Allah demonstrates your equality as a Muslim woman through the hijab. Your Lord bestows upon you equal worth as your male counterpart, and gives you a host of beautiful rights and liberties. You express your acceptance of these unique rights by putting on the hijab.
11. Allah defines your role as a Muslim woman through the hijab. You are a someone with important duties. You are a reflection of a woman of action not idle pursuits. You display your sense of direction and purpose through your hijab. You are someone that people take seriously.
12. Allah expresses your independence through the hijab. You are stating clearly that you are an obedient servant of the Greatest Master. You will obey no one else and follow no other way. You are not a slave to any man, nor a slave to any nation. You are free and independent from all man-made systems.
13. Allah gives you the freedom of movement and expression through the hijab. You are able to move about and communicate without fear of harassment. Your hijab gives you a unique confidence.
14. Allah wants others to treat you – a Muslim woman - with kindness. And the hijab brings about the best treatment of men towards you.
15. Allah wants your beauty to be preserved and saved for just one man to enjoy – your husband.
16. Allah helps you to enjoy a successful marriage through wearing hijab. Because you reserve your beauty for one man alone, your husband’s love for you increases, he cherishes you more, he respects you more and he honors you more. So your hijab contributes to a successful and lasting marriage relationship.
17. Allah brings about peace and stability in the society through the hijab! Yes this is true! Men do not cause corruption by forming illegal relationships because you - the Muslim woman - calm their passions. When a man looks at you, he feels at ease, not tempted to fornicate…

So a Muslim woman in hijab is dignified, not dishonored, noble, not degraded, liberated, not subjugated, purified, not sullied, independent, not a slave, protected, not exposed, respected, not laughed at, confident, not insecure, obedient, not a sinner, a guarded pearl, not a prostitute…

Dear Muslim sister! Come towards the gates of Paradise with us! Fulfill your duties towards Allah, put on your adornment - put on your hijab, and race towards Jannah (Paradise) by doing all good actions. You should agree by now that wearing hijab is extremely beneficial – it must be - because Allah only commands what is good…

…and believe me dear sister, it is good to obey the commands of your Lord…

جَزَاؤُهُمْ عِندَ رَبِّهِمْ جَنَّاتُ عَدْنٍ تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا أَبَدًا ۖ رَّضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ وَرَضُوا عَنْهُ ۚ ذَ‌ٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَشِيَ رَبَّهُ ﴿٨﴾

(8) Their reward is with Allah. Gardens of Eternity, beneath which rivers flow; they will dwell therein for ever; Allah well pleased with them, and they with Him: all this for such as fear their Lord and Cherisher.

Kadang-kadang Kita Terlupa...

Memang kadang-kadang kita terlupa....

1. Kita bukannya pandai untuk cakap orang lain bodoh
2. Kita bukannya kaya untuk cakap orang lain miskin.
3. Kita bukannya handsome untuk cakap orang lain muka tak handsome.
4. Kita bukannya cantik untuk cakap orang lain tak lawa
5. Kita bukannya baik untuk cakap orang lain jahat
6. Kita bukannya alim untuk cakap orang lain lupa sembahyang.
7. Kita bukannya kuat untuk cakap orang lain lemah.
8. Kita bukannya berani untuk cakap orang lain penakut
   

Tapi….

1. Kita adalah pandai jikalau kita sebarkan ilmu itu kepada orang lain.
2. Kita adalah kaya jikalau kita manfaatkan kekayaan kita kepada jalan kebaikan.
3. Kita adalah handsome jikalau kita tidak meninggi diri.
4. Kita adalah cantik jikalau kita sentiasa memuji orang lain.
5. Kita adalah baik jikalau kita mengajak orang lain ke arah kebaikan dan menjadi contoh dan tauladan orang lain.
6. Kita adalah alim jikalau kita memperuntukkan sebahagian rutin seharian kita kepada-Nya dengan seikhlas hati.
7. Kita adalah kuat jika kita sentiasa membantu orang yang lemah.
8. Kita adalah berani jikalau kita sanggup menggadaikan nyawa untuk mempertahankan agama.
   

Ingatlah!

Kita bukannya manusia yang hebat untuk mencaci dan mengutuk ciptaan-Nya. Dia Maha Mengetahui. Setiap apa yang diciptakan-NYA memiliki hikmah dan kelebihannya yang tersendiri.

Kemenangan dan kemegahan bukan saja terletak pada kesanggupan merebah lawan tetapi dapat melawan kemarahan hati itu juga suatu kemenangan yang amat bererti.

Kuantan Yang Sangat Menjengkelkan

1. Hari ini, aku ke bandar untuk misi "Satar Untuk Ibu Si Buntal".
2. Destinasi pertama aku ialah bazar Ramadhan Stadium Darul Makmur. Setibanya aku disana, tiada gerai yang menjual satar.
3. Aku mengambil keputusan untuk ke Bukit Sekilau untuk membeli Murtabak Mengkasar.
4. Aku memang suka murtabak Mengkasar disebabkan oleh filling (inti)nya.
5. Tapi hari ini aku sangat kecewa. 2 murtabak yang aku order, setengah jam kemudian aku hanya dapat sekeping sahaja.
6. Aku order, tunggu, dalam masa setengah jam, orang lain yang datang lebih lewat daripada aku pun sudah balik dengan order masing-masing.
7. Apabila aku bertanya, katanya sedang dibuat order aku. Akhirnya bila aku dapat, hanya sekeping sahaja.
8. Rupa-rupanya, sistem mereka ialah mengikut giliran jenis murtabak yang dimasak. Jika kita memesan murtabak ayam istimewa, terpaksa menunggu sehingga murtabak ayam biasa habis dimasak.
9. Mudah kata, kalau mahukan murtabak yang cepat, silalah bertanya kepada pembuatnya murtabak apa yang tengah dimasak.
10. Setelah beredar dari Bukit Sekilau dengan rasa kecewa terhadap layanan pekerja Murtabak Mengkasar Kuantan, aku ke Tanjung Lumpur untuk mencari satar.
11. Nasib baik, Gerai Pok Su Mok Su ada menjual satar. Terus aku borong satar untuk Ibu Si Buntal.
12. Dalam perjalanan, aku kembali bertemu denagn pengguna jalan raya yang sangat menjengkelkan. Sudahnya kurang pahala puasa aku memaki hamun orang hari ini.
13. Kekecewaan aku dengan murtabak mengkasar terubat apabila ke bazar Taman Tas. Ternyata ayam kapit ada dijual. Ayam kapit ini ialah ayam yang dibakar/dipanggang dengan arang.
14. Ayam kapit ini sangat simple, iaitu ayam yang dilumurkan dengan garam dan kunyit. Mudah bukan?
15. Apa yang membezakan ayam kapit dengan ayam-ayam lain ialah ayam kapit ini sangat terasa garam dan kunyitnya, tidak seperti kebanyakan ayam golek/percik/panggang lain yang dijual di bazar Ramadhan.
    

ARAK & SEKS BEBAS

1. Sebelum ini kecoh di Selangor apabila terjadinya sedikit kekecohan di antara YB Ronnie Liu dengan YB Hassan Ali.
2. Ini adalah berikutan campur tangan Ronnie Liu terhadap rampasan arak & beer yang dijual di kawasan majoriti penduduk Islam.
3. Sebelum dipanjangkan lagi perbincangan hal itu disini, silalah sesiapa yang boleh menghubungi YB Ronnie Liu untuk menjawab soalan ini, "Berikan contoh mana-mana agama yang membenarkan & menggalakkan umatnya untuk meminum arak."
4. Ajaran Confucius, Taoisme & Buddha yang menjadi pegangan kaum Cina sendiri melarang pengikutnya dari meminum minuman keras kerana ianya lebih banyak membawa keburukan dari kebaikan.
5. Untuk lebih jelas lagi, sebenarnya agama Kristian juga melarang penganutnya untuk minum minuman keras tetapi telah diputar belitkan oleh mereka yang tidak mahu menerima larangan tersebut dengan alasan meminum minuman keras tanpa mabuk dibolehkan (kenapa aku rasa sama macam alasan YB Ronnie?)
6. Dr. Ridhuan Tee, seorang tokoh Islam berbangsa Cina sendiri telah teruk dikecam oleh kaum Cina apabila dikatakan tidak menghormati mendiang Teoh Beng Hock.
7. Sepanjang pembacaan aku, Dr. Ridhuan hanya menyatakan kekesalannya terhadap beberapa tokoh politik kaum Cina yang lantang meminta anak mendiang yang dikandung oleh tunangnya (bukan isteri) diangkat taraf sebagai anak sah taraf dan bukannya anak luar nikah.
8. Sekali lagi aku meminta mana-mana orang yang boleh menunjukkan ajaran manakah yang membenarkan hubungan seks sebelum perkahwinan dibenarkan dalam ajaran tersebut.
   
9. Jika ada mana-mana ajaran yang membenarkan hubungan luar nikah, aku sendiri yang akan meminta menteri berkenaan untuk membenarkan anak mendiang dianggap sebagai anak sah taraf.
10. Semuanya terdesak untuk menjadi jaguh kaum masing-masing.
    

RASIS

1. Ini bukan cerita bagaimana aku mendapat nama aku tetapi ini adalah sedikit pandangan (bukan pendapatan) aku mengenai isu yang hangat (hangit?) iaitu rasis ataupun perkauman.
2. Nama aku Rasis tetapi aku bukan rasis. Keliru? rasis mengambil kata "ras" (kaum) yang lebih banyak digunapakai di Indonesia (kenapa tak guna perkataan "perkauman"?).
3. Baru-baru ini ada puak yang meminta supaya ruangan KAUM ditiadakan dari semua borang.
4. Ini adalah sempena Konsep 1Malaysia yang dilaungkan oleh PM kita yang aku kira lebih kepada retorik semata-mata.
5. Jika Melayu dituduh bersifat perkauman, apakah kaum lain tidak begitu? Kenapa sekolah vernakular perlu dipertahankan jika kita benar-benar menyokong Konsep 1Malaysia?
6. Adakah kaum lain mahu berkorban akan sekolah mereka dan bertutur menggunakan satu bahasa yang sama iaitu Bahasa Melayu yang kita tahu adalah Bahasa Kebangsaan kita?
7. Apakah kita perlu menyemak semula dasar pemberian kewarganegaraan Tanah Melayu kepada kaum pendatang dari China dan India ini?
8. Tidak pernah dinyatakan dalam Perlembagaan Malaysia bahawa negara kita ini dibina oleh orang Melayu, Cina dan India. Cuma yang ada dinyatakan dalam Perlembagaan Malysia ialah kedudukan Orang Asli, Melayu, Bumiputera Sarawak dan Sabah.
9. Marilah kita kembali kepada keadaan asal, tiada syak wasangka antara kaum. Kepada kaum-kaum lain, hormatilah hak orang Melayu sebagai teras negara kita ini. Kepada saudara-saudara Melayu (dan harapnya seIslam), hormatilah kaum bukan Melayu ini selagi mereka tidak melampaui batas.
   

Ketam

1. Bukan aku nak cerita pasal lauk berbuka, tapi aku cuma nak berkongsi mengenai apa yang aku nampak tiap-tiap kali bulan Ramadhan.
2. Tak dinafikan memang baik untuk ibu bapa membawa anak-anak ke masjid dan surau untuk solat terawih.
3. Namun kerapkali aku lihat anak-anak dibiarkan bermain tanpa pengawasan ibu bapa sehingga mengganggu jemaah lain untuk beribadah.
4. Aku tak salahkan anak-anak tersebut, cuma aku terkilan dengan sikap ibu bapa yang demikian.
5. Setelah aku ingat kembali, aku memang tak pernah bermain-main di surau semasa solat terawih semasa aku kecil dahulu.
6. Bukan aku mengatakan aku budak yang baik, cuma aku tak pernah ke surau untuk terawih semasa aku sekolah rendah.
7. Aku cuma berterawih setelah aku belajar cara-cara solat terawih semasa aku di sekolah menengah.
8. Pokok pangkalnya, kalau anak itu belum mumaiyyiz, harapnya ibu atau bapa ada bersama dengan anak supaya dapat memimpin anak tersebut.
   

Marhaban Ya Ramadhan

Ramadhan tiba lagi. Tapi kali ini, berbeza daripada Ramadhan sebelum ini kerana ini adalah kali kedua Ramadhanku sebagai seorang suami dan kali pertama Ramadhanku sebagai seorang bapa. Aku mengucapkan Salam Ramadhan kepada semua, semoga Ramadhan ini bukanlah Ramadhan yang terakhir untuk kita dan semoga Ramadhan kali ini lebih baik berbanding Ramadhan yang lepas, InsyaAllah.

2007 - 1
2008 - 2
2009 - 3
2010 - 4?

p/s : agak suram Ramadhan kali ini kerana kembalinya ke Rahmatullah nenda tercinta. pada bulan 4 yang lalu. sementelah pula minggu lepas aku bermimpi arwah nenekku.

Success Is ...

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